read piro's rant about playing ragnarok online at the bottom of the page... he, like me, doesn't want lots of help and doesn't mind being a n00b:
"I'll help you level up!" was what friends always used to tell me, but there was always a part of me that rebelled against that idea, at least initially. I wanted to do my time as a true noob and figure things out the hard way. Having someone walk me through everything just seemed... like it'd take the fun out of it. Part of that comes from a very single player mindset i suffer from. Kind of odd that'd i'd take so much interest in an online roll playing game :P
that's pretty much how i am. i think part of it comes from starting the game in such a small monarchy with no inactive players, i had to take care of myself cuz there was no one on to help, even if i did need it. it's not that i don't like playing with other people... it's just that the way i like to play means i am never going to be high enough level to help anyone who isn't a total n00b, and i don't really have the patience to work with someone who is a total n00b.